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Rockonchicky77
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Posted on 07/19/2010

OOOOOOOOOO I SMILE HAVE FUN N LAUGH MONEY
IS NOTHING BETTER TO KEEP
YASELF SMILING AND LIVE ROCK N
LOVE N LEARNING HIGH ON MY HEART
WHAT IT TO THE WORLD SAVE THE EARTH
N MONEY PEOPLE AIN;T EVRYTHING
HERE BUT IF YA LAUGHING WITH ME ALERT
SEE WHO LOVE MORE O MONEY BURN N EARTH N MEN O
LET ROLL SMILE STEP ON MY TOES
I MIGHT HAVE A GOOD TALE
O JOKE
PUNCH LINES
MEN WITH LOT OF MONEY OR WOMEN WITH LOT OF MONEY
DOESN'T IMPRESS ME MUCH
IT WHO U R WITHIN YOU OUGHT BE COMFORTABLE WITH TREATING PEOPLE GOOD
GOOD FACE VALUE MOVE OVER GEORGE WASHINGTON
I PUT THE EARTH SMILE ON I SAVE MYSELF TROUBLE BUT TURN IT ON HIGHER VALUES FOR THOES WHO KNOW MY HEART
WIN OVER THE DRAMA OF LIFE
EARTH ROCK ME FREE


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Posted on 05/14/2010

I drew the line when after meeting a millionaire here and becoming engaged, I found out he was not only a cheater, but lied about being divorced from his wife of 26 years as well as lying about being a Dr. He was no such thing. The only truth was that he had inherited the money from his grandfather. He could not believe I broke it off and walked away. He could have given me everything....except honesty and integrity. I will never regret my decision. I do regret getting involved with him to the point of him nearly destroying my life for a few years.



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Posted on 05/14/2010

Quoting Tinkerbelle

lol TELL me about it Shaz


i wonder If I have any of his DNA around anyplace......maybe we can get some clones !!!!!!



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Posted on 05/14/2010

I'd be happy with twinkies and a cup of coffee as long as the chemistry was right. A person's personal wealth is not important to me. But, a person's personal worth is everything and i'm not speaking of money.



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Posted on 05/13/2010

I had an offer to marry a multi-millionaire one time a few years ago and I chose not to. First off, he lived in another state I wasn't wanting to move to. He was very pushy & controlling. I didn't like how he would talk down to people. It's like he demanded great service when we went out and tried to do the same with me in the bedroom. Making love should be about mutual satisfaction & not someone trying to push you to to do what they want you to do. Even if it meant not having to worry about money ever again, I just couldn't do it.

I need to be treated with respect. Money does not give people class, nor does it make them better than others. It just makes life a little easier to live when you aren't struggling financially. Sure I lose moments of insanity where I think maybe I should have gone for it back then. I then think it through and know I made the right decision. I had to do what was not only the best thing for me, but for my daughter as well.

Susie



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Posted on 05/13/2010

Proud of you. You are the last of your breed. Money is not everything, self worth and your integrity is. The same goes for men as well. Many just want a trophy girlfriend and what do you know, the girls are more than happy to put their life on hold, dump their career. I have had to dump one once because he couldn't even let me use my "brain."   You have refused - to be dominated and not many can walk away from that kind of deal - look around you at all the toy boys "men".
 
Hopefully, we can get more jist from you about happenings in "billionaire avenue"
 



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Posted on 05/10/2010

I personally don't ask very much of my man. Maybe a mistake, it has not been a good thing for me. 
I will NEVER compromise my values, sense of self or self-worth, physical or emotional and mental needs or desires in a mate for a single cent. No amount of money can buy me.
This has landed me in some tough situations in the past. I have not asked for the man in my life to have anything to show financially. I have never been with a man who owned his own home or felt comfortable with the responsibility associated with being a home-owner. I have looked past financial difficulties, having experienced quite a bit of my own. 
What it comes down to is, at what price am I for sale? I am not for sale. Never in a million years will I subvert my values, my personality or emotional needs for material gain. I would rather starve to death (Maybe not very smart, read 'House of Mirth' quite a dismal story)
I have confidence, however, that it will not come to that. I can see to my own needs, I have known people much worse off then me and they do okay. They struggle but always manage. I know it is possible, but I don't intend on going there myself. I have a plan and goals and I will get myself there on my own power. It would be nice to have help, but that help would have to be after an established relationship in which there is no sugar daddy-mistress sort of imbalance. 
I am my own woman, I always will be and I will not start to be someone else's puppet for any financial prospect. I respect my man, I expect the same in return.
I do not allow a man with money to take liberties which I would not allow a man without money to take. I do not get blinded by the glitter of gold to make poor decisions.
What I have to give is GIVEN, not sold, when I am ready to give and not before. I give to who I am comfortable with, who I like and who answers some deep emotional or mental need within me which has nothing to do with money.
A poor man or rich man, a good man or bad man, a handsome man or an ugly man, all can be loved just as well as the other. But why choose the negatives? I have recently decided I will try to find someone who is financially secure to love, but if I find a man who is not, and he is right for me and loves me the way I need to be loved, and I can love him back, then we will figure out the financial issues together. Money can buy a facsimile of love, never the real thing. Beauty, also can only buy a facsimile of love, but not the real thing.
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Posted on 05/08/2010

Quoting shazbot82

tinkieeee ,,,weepweepweep, you just described RJ ! That type of man is actually pretty rare !


lol TELL me about it Shaz



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Posted on 05/08/2010

Quoting Tinkerbelle

I think Conyers has it sewn up pretty well.
My reading is that this situation has more to do with you and how you percieve yourself and actions , and with little to do with her. Dominant successful  women are best with a man who has a strong sense of self a man who is happy for her to be who she is, enjoying her gifts, and what she does best without it taking anything away from the man.
Im very strong and this has been my experience. Only well adjusted men need apply lol


tinkieeee ,,,weepweepweep, you just described RJ ! That type of man is actually pretty rare !



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Posted on 05/07/2010

I think Conyers has it sewn up pretty well.
My reading is that this situation has more to do with you and how you percieve yourself and actions , and with little to do with her. Dominant successful  women are best with a man who has a strong sense of self a man who is happy for her to be who she is, enjoying her gifts, and what she does best without it taking anything away from the man.
Im very strong and this has been my experience. Only well adjusted men need apply lol



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Posted on 05/06/2010

My personal preference would be not to know about the person's financial status in the phase of getting to know one another at all.  True character of a person's soul is revealed much better when you are both out of your comfort zone.  
 
As woman, I act differently when with my children than I do in the business world and so too when I am socialising with my friends.  And of course so too when in an intimate relationship with a special gentleman.  However, at core, I remain the same person and this can be seen in all aspects of my life. 
 
In summary, I want to learn about the person first and foremost and find out whether there is a connection.  Then move on from there to get to know more about the person in other aspects of their life.  Or choose to walk away based on the interactions prior to knowing about financial wealth etc.
 
To me it is more important to know that there is no criminal record hiding somewhere and that the person is able to look after themselves (and their children if there are) financially.  That they are faithful in relationships, core family values, not abusive and the list goes on.  For most of us it is the second time around and we would not want to repeat mistakes.  



It is not what you do once in a while. It is what you do day in and day out that makes a difference.

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Posted on 05/06/2010

Michael, from what you've said here, and from what your profile shows, you yourself are quite successful in the business world, which means you yourself must be very good at taking control.  Taking control of conversations....situtions...etc.  Capable of taking control as well as this lovely woman you talk about is capable of taking control.

Perhaps....just a thought....this lovely woman is hoping to find a man who can usurp her controlling ways in her personal life.  Take charge in spite of how controlling she is.  It's very difficult for me to judge without concrete examples.... 

I could be so far off base that my opinion belongs in the next galaxy....but sitting here thinking about your situation, I get a pretty strong gut reaction:  In spite of what you say,  you are a trifle---just a trifle---intimidated by her wealth and position.  If you can toss that intimidation out the window, just be yourself [and I'm sure you are very good at that 99.9% of the time in your life], you might find that she welcomes a man who can take charge on a personal level...relieve her of that responsiblity in her personal life.  

I hope you get another shot at this lady....get to try out being the one in charge.... 

Just a thought....

Pat



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Posted on 05/06/2010

my lastMy last S.O. was one of South East Asia's richest ,most prominent businessmen and very well known in that part of the world ( prior to the tsunami of 2004)
 
  he controled vast fortunes and about 23 different businesses at any point it time. Perhaps he was not typical of the wealthy. Perhpas by the time we were together he had had enough  of controlling things and simply wanted to relax.
 
  I never once felt he tried to control me or any aspect of our lives together. He was always respectful towards me and valued my opinions and input.
 
   If one did not know of his personal status, you would never have suspected. Unless attending an important goverment affair, he worn what everyone else on the streets would. Often shorts, or a sarong and sandals ( this IS SEA,,very hot)
 
  maybe it was that he considered himself short ( 5-8) and a few hangups about being attractive to the opposite sex ( believe me, he was very nice looking !)  I dont know.
 
What I do know is that his wealth and my relative lack of it never entered into our relationship at all.
 
 I would suggest that you take the time to get to know the WOMAN, not the billionaire. You may find she is sweet and vulnerable and has a kind heart. She CAn learn to trust you and become more of herself as time goes by.
 
For all you know, she may well be looking for a man who loves HER, not her money !
 
I do think you are intimidated by her wealth,,it is sort of natural. Dont throw her aside because she is rich !



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Posted on 05/06/2010

The way I see it is it really doesn't matter how much money they have. What matters is how much money I have so as to not be seduced by the wealth of others. I have been very fortunate in that that I have always been able to easily support what I consider to be a very comfortable life style; so to me what others have has never been a factor. I have also found that most women with $1 billion are usually looking for guys that have $10 billion...



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Posted on 05/06/2010

Michael, Could I have her phone number? :):):) Just kidding, SOMEBODY was gonna say it. (And for the record, I'm still involved with someone and have NO interest in looking elsewhere. Just couldn't resist the smartass comment.):)

And yes, I agree with everyone else. You maintain your own personal integrity....be able to look at yourself in the mirror, no matter what the other person is or does. These are values we set for ourselves. It has nothing to do with ANYONE else.


But, I know I have been accused of being controlling, and I'l bet most successful people have been. Tink admitted it, too. (That doesn't mean we agree with them, does it, Tink?) :):) But I have on occasions KNOWN that I had a better grasp on the reality of a particular situation, and KNOWN that alternatives to my preference were going to turn out badly....or certainly worse than MY preference would. This doesn't mean I'm controlling. It just means I have experience in this matter, and don't wish to repeat the distasteful effects of the wrong choice. Hell, I've done hundreds of things wrong that I do not wish to repeat!!!!! (And quite a few wrong that I DO want to repeat, but that's another subject entirely.):):)

SO, we would often wish for our less experienced (or perhaps just with less to lose???) partner to listen, and more often than not allow us to determine the path to follow?????? If we are honest now, at least a few of us say yes.

SO, is your billionairess asking you to do anything different than that? Or is she just describing the situations that surround her, that sometimes dictate to her (and anyone who wishes to accompany her) the actions, methods or activities that need to be followed? She has made choices that have led to her current situation. Is she merely describing them, so that you will understand them, in the hope they WILL be tolerable to you? If so, I'd have a hard time describing her as controlling. Is it controlling when a wrong-side-of-the-tracks girl insists you have a Viking tattoo acros your back, ripped abs and the ability to fight and drink all night......in order to be HER man? I don't think any of us would say so.

So, perhaps Tink or me or Bill or AZ or even sweet young Sarah are not being controlling when we merely say what has worked for us in the past, and tells you we wish for it to continue to work for us. Maybe the billionairess is just doing the same thing???? If she cares for you, it is a sure thing she WILL try to make accomodations over time, to allow you to blossom (or continue to blossom) in her world. And she would likewise attempt to make it YOUR world, too......not just you-in-hers.


Now, if you see no signs of these traits...., maybe she really IS just a controlling bit*ch. :)



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Posted on 05/06/2010

Michael,,,,This topic has always intrigued me, thanks for writing about it. I do commend you for walking away when you felt you values were being compromized. I think a person should always walk away in that type of situation regardless of how much money or anything else the other person has.
 
I would be interested in learning more. Please give me examples of how she tried to control you ?



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Posted on 05/06/2010

Well Michael,
I do understand you totally. Controlling business is something, but for my part I don't control an Empire so hard to compare too. Still I drop the control on my desk... When home (maybe cause of my kid) I tempt to be totally different than at work.
Now you know, maybe by being just friends, talking time to time, you will learn to know her better, and how she thinks with all her fortune... It will give you tricks to let you know if you have done the right choice... But maybe things will change when you get to know each other slowly better and uninterested side... then maybe Love will knock your door...
Who knows Life is really full of surprises, isn't it ?
Like a dream ...



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Posted on 05/06/2010

Michael, its all abut personal integrity isnt it? I have never counted anybodies wealth , male or female. At the same time i have never felt undervalued or intimidated by those who have more just as I have never felt empowered and above those who have less.
If im with you its because i want to be there not because of what you have. I am allways fond of saying you cant sit and talk to a mink coat! Its true no?
Interesting with what you say about the controlling part of the lady. I guess, and have been labelled  controlling myself sometimes , that in order to be that sucessful you need to be able to take charge and be in control to be able to pull it all together. After all you dont get to that level by being Susie Homemaker now do you.
I guess the bottom line is what you can and cannot tolerate in a partner. The money is a side issue or maybe an explanation... What do you think?



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Posted on 05/06/2010

Bravo Michael.  There comes a time when, no matter how appealing a person may appear on paper, how beautiful or fun, that you may encounter "but...". So when confronted with that thing that threatens your happily ever after, it's good to pay attention.  You should be commended for doing a courageous thing to walk away with your parts and pieces intact.  I hope I would have done the same. My line hasn't been tested quite like that, but I believe if it was, I'd write you for advice.
 
The critical moment of choice - self-worth is an inside job and no one can buy it for you.



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